March 28, 2004
Ladies, I have another question for you. I was working out the other day and a young couple, probably in their early 30s came in. I didn't think too much about it, but later, the woman said something that got my brain going. She was on the leg press, and her guy was a ways off doing curls. I don't remember what I was working on, but I heard her sort of whine out loud to her husband something along the lines of "Honey, this is too easy." But she kept on doing it without changing anything. He finally came over and changed the pin to a different block to create more resistance, a matter of a couple seconds once he was over there. Then she went on with her excercise and he did his.I have a hard time believing she couldn't figure out how to change the weight on her own. I'd put that at about 2nd or 3rd grade level. The only thing I can think of is that she intentionally wanted the guy to come over and do it as a matter of love or caring for her.My logical brain has a problem with this. It just seems so unnecessary, so girls, am I right in my assessment? Is she just being needy? Is this common? I need to be prepared.
Posted by charr at 10:13 AM
Two possibilities, 1) She knows that guys like to do things for girls, no matter how basic. (Damsel in distress thing)or 2) She's needy.
I agree with Renee, although I'd add a number three: she's an absolute brat. I saw some girls like this while bowling yesterday. They wouldn't do a single thing for themselves because they've always had someone else waiting on them. I think that's a different step up from just being needy, because needy I think has more to do with craving attention. Whereas I think being a brat is more about just plain selfishness and being a conceited prat.
And I certainly hope it isn't a common attribute, otherwise you poor men are sunk. I can't imagine having to put up with that from any woman.
I can see it being cute during the infatuation stage, but it would get old real quick. Renee, as for the doing things for girls, my opinion (and remember I"m not married :) ) is that there are limits. Inconveniencing the guy that much just so he can move a pin that you could have done much easier, is not reasonable.
Needy. I fault the guy for doing it for her. I know plenty of my old boyfriends would have said "Do it yourself!"
I think some women feel that if a guy is doing things for him, then that is evidence that he loves her. It's not a bad thing to have that reaffirmed every once in a while. Who knows if she does that a lot, or if that was a rare occasion.
I meant "if a guy is doing things for her..."
She's a brat. And that is pretty common.The real question is why men put up with it...
I'm kinda leaning towards it being a bratty thing to do. Back to my last comment, if a girl wants the guy to show his love for her, there are more reasonable things he can do, such as opening her door, doing the dishes, or a myriad of other things. Having him stop his workout and come over and do something you could have done so much easier is, in my opinion, rather dumb. Ellen and Jan, I agree that the guy should've just said for her to do it herself. He could easily just say out loud for her to move the pin to a new block. Who knows, maybe they were twitterpated.
What does "twitterpated" mean?!
It's from the Disney movie, Bambi.
Your first error is in the attempt at making sense of it. I often refer to a quote from Jack Nicholson in the movie, As Good As It Gets, when asked how he's able to create such believable women characters in his novels, he replies:Well first, I think of a man; and then I take away reason and accountability. He makes me laugh.
Wow, that's so funny Jason. (sarcasm)
Jason, funny. (I'm serious, not sarcastic.)Seems to me though, that by doing her will, the man at Cameron's gym is the one who has no reason or accountablility. Seems like she's got him pretty much where she wants him. He does what she wants, when she wants. I may not agree with it, but you can't deny that she's the one in control. Perhaps she has more reason and accountablility than we've been giving her credit for.Ellen, you've never seen Bambi? I don't think I've ever know someone who hasn't seen Babli before.